(Not strict enough apparently, lol). I've since had the child. 1. If other women can do it, you can do it. You deserve to be happy, and 'staying together for the kids' is a terrible thing to do when one (or both) parents are unhappy. We have a 10 week old daughter together and we've been together on/off for 3.5 years. He "ran" a few months ago, and wanted nothing to do with my daughter, EXCEPT the baby. You will have some kinks in the road but as long as you teach your daughter good values and respect for herself and others the rest God will do. That was about Christmas time and everything is even worse. I am so sorry you are going through this, I too have the same situation but my child's father and I was a couple (strong) right up to me telling him I wanted to keep the baby and could not live with aborting another child, he has not spoke to me since. Your daughter is the most important thing in your life right now, and you need to take responsibility for her. I never thought I would be in this situation and that the person I love would abandon me because I chose not to abort. It hurts so deep down but I cant change his mind. I don't hate her, but I don't want to have anything to do with her. its hard doing it alone but one day you will find a man that will accept you and your baby and take care of the both of you. Whether or not you remain romantically involved with Katie is besides the point. The "babydaddy", as we shall call him, is just plain mean. What will be, will be! And what is currently best for your daughter is to have her father (you) be in her life consistently and regularly, and as often as possible. I'm in same situation right now I just found out I was pregnant a couple days ago. He doesn't want anything to do with me or the baby. I didn't and i suffered greatly when the relationship failed. You have a blast with yoru kid the week with your kid. and I don't want to be a father right now. Anyway, he's the one that's missing out- I'd tell him to go to hell, as long as your baby has family around he or she, it'll be alright- from the way you said he's carrying on, he doesn't sound mature enough to be a father anyway. It is not the ideal situation I was never expecting to be a single parent. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the relationships community. I just don't know what to do. I'm not cut out for this life. No drunken mistakes. At that point she agreed to just stick with being friends who sometimes bang (our word for FWB). JkM, I am in the same boat as you.only I think you might be much younger.im 34 years old I have a 10 year old daughter and I'm pregnant with my second baby daddy who I was in a relationship with until we found out I was pregnant he left me and said he doesn't want anything to do with me or my baby..I know exactly how you feel but stay strong your baby needs you forget him as hard as that will be but if he doesn't want anything to do with it it's his loss believe me ..I know it's easier sand then done.this will be hard but god doesn't give us more then we can handle trust me everything will work it self out..don't aboard your baby unless your 100% sure of it..I have done that too 4years ago with the same man I'm pregnant by now I regret it everyday...good luck stay strong..sometimes having no father is better then having the actual father in the baby life..any man that can walk away from his own is not a man ..p.s don't be I a shamed these things happen every day and he's the one who should be ashamed. 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